Happy New Year!

January 25, 2010

What does the new year hold for you? Exactly what you create it to be! You may argue that we cannot control every aspect of our lives; however, I suggest that we do control the choices we make, as well as our actions, behaviors and perceptions.

In welcoming the new year, did you make resolutions and set new goals for yourself? Excellent! … and, how are you doing so far?

Perhaps you were happy to see 2009 end? … have you reflected on what happened last year? More importantly, did you accept responsibility for your part in affecting the outcome?

Maybe you were sad to say farewell to 2009? … was it a great year because you designed it to be so, or did that happen by chance? If it’s the latter, then of course you’re sad to see 2009 pass by since you have no idea how to create another awesome year.

If you want this year to be a happy one, then use the following ingredients to create your own fulfillment, success and happiness this year and every year …

12 key ingredients for a Happy New Year:

Attitude – strive to be optimistic and positive. You will receive everything you invite into your life; therefore, if you invite optimism and positivity, then you will have it.

Dream – see your life as a journey. Allow yourself to stretch your imagination and discover limitless possibilities.

Health – exercise regularly & maintain a nutritious diet. Your body will respond to how you treat it, so if you ignore your health it will eventually slip away.

Love – nurture close relationships & friendships. A full heart is a happy one and the more love you give, the more you will receive. 

Mindset – use “can” & “will”. View situations as possibilities and opportunities to explore different options. The language you use is a powerful tool to influence your thinking.

Passion – do what you love. With passion comes energy and enthusiasm which will help drive you toward your goals, and persevere when times get tough.

Purpose – take steps with intention. You will achieve your goals when you create a meaningful plan to guide you.

Skill – continuously grow & develop. Adopt a sponge-like mindset for continuous knowledge and exploration, and you won’t be tempted to settle for mediocrity. 

Support – reach out for help. We all need help from time to time, so don’t hesitate to ask for it instead of stumbling in the darkness.

Talent – tap into your strengths. We have all been blessed with talents and when we combine them with passion, we create a powerful and unique strength to use to our advantage.

Vision – have long-term goals to strive for. Design an image of the goals you plan to achieve and continue to reach toward and beyond it.

Wealth – live abundantly in all areas of your life. Strive for happiness and fulfillment rather than financial gain. There’s so much more to life than money.

The recipe for achieving a happy new year is not complicated or in need of a guru’s wisdom to accomplish. It is completely in your control to create. When life throws curve balls your way, take out the ingredients above to adjust the choices you’re making, the actions you’re taking, your behavior, and your perceptions in order to re-create your perfect recipe for happiness and fulfillment.  This is the secret that happy people know. 

I welcome hearing your thoughts, comments and stories. Cheers to a fantastic 2010!

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If your business or personal growth is being negatively affected by a lack of happiness and fulfillment, perhaps it’s time to reach out for support. I would be delighted to work with you and explore techniques and strategies to help you realize happiness and fulfillment in your life. Please contact me directly at ulana@clarity-works.com to reserve your complimentary coaching session.

Ulana Chabursky

Ulana Chabursky, Business & Personal Growth Coach

Together, let’s unleash the happiness within you!

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A Boost of Confidence

November 10, 2009

When the times get tough, the tough get going! This phrase alone sets apart those who succumb to internal fears from those who choose to keep moving forward, gaining success. When it becomes more difficult for us to achieve our personal and professional goals, we tend to lose our self confidence. Underlying fears set in, usually followed by self-doubt and self-blame.

Fear is natural and human. Back in the day of the Stone Age, it was fear that kept us alive. Today, our reptilian brain continues to function and often impedes our ability to stretch boundaries and welcome changes in our lives. It is these underlying feelings of fear that influence our confidence.

What would you do and what would you achieve without fear?

Reality dictates that fear exists and it will continue to influence our thoughts and actions. Therefore, let’s learn to utilize it to our advantage, instead of succumbing to it. Boosting our confidence will engage the logical part of our brain and help keep our fears in check.

Try a dose of positive psychology with these confidence boosters …

Create a wins journal. Focus on all your accomplishments to date by creating a list of everything you are grateful for, appreciate and have accomplished in your life. At the end of each day, add that day’s ‘wins’ to your list. When we focus on the positive we outsmart the negative. Review your list regularly for a boost of confidence!

Change your language. Instead of saying “I can’t”, find a way to say “I can”. Focus on what is in your control and within your ability to accomplish. Tap into your strengths instead of wallowing in your challenges.

Take charge. Are you blaming someone else for your lack of confidence? Perhaps you’ve spent a good portion of your life trying to live up to someone else’s expectations and haven’t quite succeeded. Well there’s a surprise! They weren’t your expectations to begin with. Take charge of your life and your destiny by creating your own life vision. Then design a strategy to achieve your goals.

Practice creative thinking. Sometimes we fail. However, this does not imply that we are failures. Many very successful individuals failed many times, only to re-shift, re-adjust, re-focus, and re-energize to try again. Engage your creative thinking. When there’s a stumbling block in your path … how are you going to get around it? What if “I can’t” was not an option?

Love yourself. What do you think about the person in the mirror? It’s time to quell any negative self thinking or self talk. Self-focused negativity will certainly sabotage your confidence and will not support your efforts. Look at yourself in the mirror and point out everything you like about yourself. Add something new to your list every day. Keep going until the day you see an amazing individual staring back at you.

I look forward to reading your comments, stories and ‘wins’ of the day! Thank you in advance for sharing.

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If your business or personal growth is being negatively affected by a lack of confidence, perhaps it’s time to reach out for support. I would be delighted to work with you and explore confidence building techniques and strategies that will work perfectly for you. Please contact me directly at ulana@clarity-works.com to reserve your complimentary coaching session.

Ulana Chabursky

Ulana Chabursky, Business & Personal Growth Coach

Together, let’s unleash the confidence within you!


How to Mingle in a Room of Strangers

September 28, 2009

Networking is a key ingredient in growing your business, and learning how to work a room successfully is a valuable skill in today’s global economy. It is also a valuable skill for building personal relationships, and it’s much more fun to mingle than to stand alone in a corner during a party.

Let’s begin with shifting our perception of strangers. If you consider that strangers are merely friends you haven’t met yet, then the prospect of engaging a stranger in conversation doesn’t seem so frightening.

Networking

Strangers are friends we haven't met yet!

Try the following tips and see what happens:

Find a common connection. Discussing how you’re connected to the event or the host is an easy way to start a conversation. It also invites someone you’ve never met before to open up and feel comfortable around you.  

• Have you attended this conference before?
• How do you know the host/hostess?
• What brings you to this event?

Pay a compliment. Everyone likes to be acknowledged and admired. Following an introduction, notice something you like about the other person. Perhaps it’s a stylish tie or unique pair of earrings. Continue the conversation by asking where the person acquired it. This shows you are genuinely interested in getting to know them better.

• I couldn’t help notice your pendant … it’s absolutely stunning! Where did you get it?
• By the way, you have excellent taste … I was admiring your tie. May I ask where you bought it?
• I love your shoes! Where did you find them?

Explore interests. Asking questions about what someone enjoys doing outside of work opens many areas of conversation. Generally, we like talking about ourselves and we tend to love talking about what we enjoy most in life. You may learn that they love their work or they may share their personal interests. Either way you will learn a lot about them.

• What do you enjoy doing when you’re not working?
• Have you visited any interesting places lately?
• How do you celebrate all your hard work?

Find a buddy. You very well may not be the only newcomer in this group. Scope out other “newbies”. Then join forces to meet others. Finding a buddy will ease the discomfort of feeling isolated and out of place. It may also help bring out the socializer in you.

• Hi, my name is Ulana! Are you new to this group, too?
• Hello, are you here by yourself? By the way, my name is Ulana …
• Hi, my name is Ulana! I’m here by myself, may I join you?

Be honest and introduce yourself. Ok, so maybe you are the only newcomer to this group and everyone else is engaged in conversations. Don’t let that prevent you from stepping up, waiting for a lull in the chit chat and introducing yourself. Let them know that you don’t know anyone and would love the opportunity to get to know them. Your sincerity and courage will surely be admired and someone will take you under their wing to continue introducing you to the rest of the group.

• Hi, my name is Ulana! I’m new to this group and I’d love the opportunity to get to know you better.
• Hi, I couldn’t help notice how much fun you seem to be having … my name is Ulana.
• Hello, my name is Ulana … may I join your conversation?

I would love to hear your feedback and your mingling adventures or challenges. Please don’t hesitate to share your comments. 

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If your business or personal growth is being negatively affected by a lack of networking skills and strategies, perhaps it’s time to reach out for support. I would be delighted to work with you and explore networking techniques that will work perfectly for you. Please contact me directly at ulana@clarity-works.com to reserve your complimentary coaching session focused on networking.

Ulana Chabursky

Ulana Chabursky, Business & Personal Growth Coach

Together, let’s unleash the networker from within you!


Happy Anniversary!

August 5, 2009

Juri & UlanaThis August 30th, my husband and I are celebrating our 23rd wedding anniversary. We are best friends, lovers, parents, life partners as well as business partners … and it works! Together, we have celebrated many successes and overcame some difficult challenges. Our journey continues with a toolkit of valuable life skills.

If you happen to be married to your business partner, the following tips will help ensure a happy and fulfilling relationship:

1) Clearly define your roles in the business … Who takes the lead on what? And, who is responsible for what?

Why? Because this avoids unnecessary confusion & misunderstandings which may lead to further disagreements, stress & arguments.

2) Understand and agree on your ‘partnership’ … are you equal partners or is there a hierarchy in your company? Is one role strictly support? Is one role perceived as less important/valuable than the other? Are both partners in agreement with this perception?

Why? Because this avoids fueling potential resentments.

3) Appreciate & celebrate each other’s hard work and efforts … don’t take each other for granted in your business environment in the same way you don’t take each other for granted in your personal relationship.

Why? Because these steps are part of a healthy, happy & successful business partnership and personal relationship.

4) Have regular ‘check-in’ meetings to share personal feelings, goals and insights. Are you on the same page? Do you need to make any adjustments?

Why? This keeps the communication channels open to explore self-awareness and potential concerns.

5) Resolve all business misunderstandings/disagreements before they spill into your personal life.

Why? Because this avoids mixing business stresses with your personal relationship.

6) Ensure that your business relationship does not dominate your personal relationship. Regularly spend quality time discussing everything, but ‘business’!

Why? Because this prevents your relationship from becoming one-dimensional. In all likelihood, you didn’t fall in-love and get married for the sole purpose of running a business together.

Happy Anniversary to all you August love birds! What are your personal best tips for nurturing a life partnership?


A Special Invitation …

April 9, 2009

A coaching invitation ...

  • Isn’t it time to create the life you want?
  • Isn’t it time to catch your dreams
      instead of chasing them?
  • What would you be doing now
      if you knew you could not fail?

Working with a ClarityWorks coach will help you transform your life by realizing your true potential and unleashing the greatness from within you.

Take the first step to living your dream by calling us and booking a complimentary coaching session:

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Are You Listening?

March 19, 2009

Listening is a powerful skill which most of us tend to take for granted. Listening is different from hearing and requires practice.  We “hear” sounds. We “listen” to understand what the speaker is saying, what they are feeling and to pay attention to what is being said beneath the words.

The highest form of attentive listening.

The highest form of attentive listening.

As a professional coach, I strive every day to improve my listening skills so that I am able to truly “tune in” to my clients needs. Every individual who interacts with others can significantly strengthen both professional and personal relationships by improving their listening skills,  Why? Because, “the most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood … the best way to understand people is to listen to them.” – Ralph Nichols

The month of March is dedicated to celebrating International Listening Awareness. I encourage you to sharpen your listening skills by regularly practicing these helpful techniques …

• Avoid interrupting
• Keep an open mind
• Suspend judgments
• Refrain from making assumptions
• Respect the speaker’s personal space
• Give appropriate eye contact
• Be patient and understanding
• Listen for underlying feelings and subtle messages
• Avoid completing the speaker’s sentences
• Take notes when helpful
• Shut out distractions & focus on what the speaker is saying
• Use interjections to let the speaker know you’re  “tuned in”
• Focus on the speaker’s intentions and not your own

The International Listening Association promotes the study, development, and teaching of listening and the practice of effective listening skills. A wonderful resource for listening tips and techniques is their website, at www.listen.org .

Two ears ... one mouth!

Two ears ... one mouth!

In closing, always keep in mind … “We have two ears and one mouth so we can listen twice as much as we talk.”


Taking a Moment to Acknowledge My Biggest Supporters

February 28, 2009

“We are each of us angels with only one wing, and we can only fly by embracing one another”Seagull soaring over La Jolla Shores, CA

I would not be the person I am today without the support and encouragement of my family, friends, colleagues and clients. Recently, a personal loss has reminded me of their unconditional love, compassion and understanding.
Seagulls taking flight over Del Mar Beach, CAThank you for reaching out to me, sharing warm thoughts, drying my tears, helping me find joy, and giving me the strength to move on. In times of celebration and in times of sadness you are always there for me. With your support I am able to soar to new heights!