When the times get tough, the tough get going! This phrase alone sets apart those who succumb to internal fears from those who choose to keep moving forward, gaining success. When it becomes more difficult for us to achieve our personal and professional goals, we tend to lose our self confidence. Underlying fears set in, usually followed by self-doubt and self-blame.
Fear is natural and human. Back in the day of the Stone Age, it was fear that kept us alive. Today, our reptilian brain continues to function and often impedes our ability to stretch boundaries and welcome changes in our lives. It is these underlying feelings of fear that influence our confidence.
What would you do and what would you achieve without fear?
Reality dictates that fear exists and it will continue to influence our thoughts and actions. Therefore, let’s learn to utilize it to our advantage, instead of succumbing to it. Boosting our confidence will engage the logical part of our brain and help keep our fears in check.
Try a dose of positive psychology with these confidence boosters …
Create a wins journal. Focus on all your accomplishments to date by creating a list of everything you are grateful for, appreciate and have accomplished in your life. At the end of each day, add that day’s ‘wins’ to your list. When we focus on the positive we outsmart the negative. Review your list regularly for a boost of confidence!
Change your language. Instead of saying “I can’t”, find a way to say “I can”. Focus on what is in your control and within your ability to accomplish. Tap into your strengths instead of wallowing in your challenges.
Take charge. Are you blaming someone else for your lack of confidence? Perhaps you’ve spent a good portion of your life trying to live up to someone else’s expectations and haven’t quite succeeded. Well there’s a surprise! They weren’t your expectations to begin with. Take charge of your life and your destiny by creating your own life vision. Then design a strategy to achieve your goals.
Practice creative thinking. Sometimes we fail. However, this does not imply that we are failures. Many very successful individuals failed many times, only to re-shift, re-adjust, re-focus, and re-energize to try again. Engage your creative thinking. When there’s a stumbling block in your path … how are you going to get around it? What if “I can’t” was not an option?
Love yourself. What do you think about the person in the mirror? It’s time to quell any negative self thinking or self talk. Self-focused negativity will certainly sabotage your confidence and will not support your efforts. Look at yourself in the mirror and point out everything you like about yourself. Add something new to your list every day. Keep going until the day you see an amazing individual staring back at you.
I look forward to reading your comments, stories and ‘wins’ of the day! Thank you in advance for sharing.
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Together, let’s unleash the confidence within you!